A friendship .. It must be one of the most unique and strongest bonds that man has been able to sew , improve and create during his life , to consolidate , outside of his family .

   A bond which is based , on kindness , pounds of kindness , with surely three tablespoons of fun, a tablespoon of sympathy, a teaspoon of warmth, with a pinch of nastiness sometimes , a big teaspoon of nonsense here and there , and finally a grain of love, nothing more than a grain , just a grain .

      And said like that , it certainly sells dreams , makes some of you salivate , or perhaps gives them a feeling of envy , of wanting to experience such a feeling at least once in their life , at least a moment ..

   And you know what ? This is totally understandable ..

   After all , who would not want someone to like them ?

 You can guess , that for a wonderful and stable friendship , this recipe has to be taken seriously .. And no other ingredients should interfere with it .

Otherwise , it would simply be .. How to say ? Disgusting ..

 But sometimes even with effort, we can’t , we can’t do anything to avoid adding something more .  After all , it’s in Humans not to know how to control their feelings , right .. ?

        And that’s how change occurs in a friendship . Well , if we had to define it as much as possible , it happens in three stages , and it’s certainly in the third that everything explodes ..

         First , The small changes :

              It is characterized by more recurring glances, more radiant smiles , a loss in the gaze of the other , more powerful heartbeats caused by everyday actions, yet, .

  And all these little details... They mark the beginning of a loving behavior..

But the main problem , is when there is more than a simple feeling of kindness , when it turns into something deeper , when the desire to be with

that friend becomes more powerful than the desire to hang out with just friends .

     Second , The realization :

               Personally , I suppose that it must be the worst … Because , at the same moment when you realize that you’re in love , that a person has a place in your heart, that you realize your friendship is over . Even if it’s not said , it will surely be felt , perhaps not right away , but in the future ..

  And it's horrible because it marks the end of a beginning , because fear , shame , and love will mix together at the same time , and it’s not a healthy mix, not at all .

          Finally , The risk :

          Of course , it’s not an obligation to say what you feel . It can be kept secret , as it can be revealed . And here is the problem..

        It’s an internal debate , between your pain , the suffering you will have if you still see your « friend » with other people , if you still play a role , and the hope of a positive response , of a « What if she says yes ? » « What if she loves me too ? »

      These thoughts can really drive crazy .

       And you know what ? It requires a lot of courage to face our feelings , so not remaining in denial can show even more how powerful the person is . This is apparently , how love can affect friendships .. Afterwards it certainly changes from one person to another ..

   Maybe this helped you open your eyes , maybe you already knew it before , or maybe you just don’t care ..

 But for those who are in this - complicated - situation , there is a quote from Charles Caleb Colton , he says :

« Friendship often ends in Love, but Love never ends in Friendship »

 So , if you don’t feel ready , if you feel like you might regret it later, don’t do it .

Make sure that when you’ll confess your feelings , you won’t have a single regret . Because maybe you won’t experience this kind of friendship twice …